The "F" Word
Have you ever met (or been) a child that is afraid of the dark? A child experiencing a very tangible Fear of the monster lurking in the bedroom at night when the lights are off? There is a shape in the corner of the room. It is watching, waiting for the child… The Fear is REAL. There can be no negotiation, no reasoning. The only option is to panic and hide under the covers. You cannot tell the child that there is nothing to Fear – because they can hear the monster breathing… they have seen it move. Now, we know as experienced and rational adults that there is not a monster in the room hiding in the dark - that there is nothing more to Fear in the dark than there is to Fear in the Light. But you can’t explain to a quivering child that their mind created the monster and expect them to believe you.
But we are not so different from the frightened child hiding under the covers. Think about the times your Fears fueled your actions.
Do you experience Fears of failure, change, loss, or being judged by others?
Fears may turn into ugly insecurities. Heavy, sticky, tamasic energy... Fear clouds our vision and fortifies barriers which stifle our ability to Love and live openly and freely. Fear is a highly attractive energy force - it will draw additional heavy, sticky, dark energies toward us like a magnet. Fears promote other Fears, and the spiral of negativity expands.
Typically, we run from the things that trigger our Fears. We build walls and safety nets around us. We close ourselves off.
Fear is stagnation. Fear paralyzes action.
When we act out of Fear, we manipulate, censor, and protect ourselves by moving into a self-preservation mode.
But what is there to Fear?
Fear usually means living in the past – reliving a memory or fabricating a story and projecting the things that once produced emotional responses onto the present and future.
If we look at this very moment, this present moment in reality, there is nothing to Fear. Fear is not the present moment. It is an idea. A story. When we pursue our Fear, we are no longer fearful.
Fear is like the monster in the corner of the child’s bedroom at night. When the lights are off, the mind creates a story about the danger, the uncertainty, the potential pain… but when the lights are turned on, the eyes clearly see that there was nothing more than a chair in the corner with clothing and clutter piled on it.
There was never anything to Fear.
So how can we choose to move through life supported by Love rather than oppressed by Fear?
When we move out of Love we are authentic; we are vulnerable and raw. It can be scary. But when we open ourselves up to grow, we are free.
If we can ground ourselves in reality and quiet the chatter of our internal Fear machines, then the only thing remaining is the Peace and Love that are waiting to be experienced and shared.
Freedom, Love, Truth, and Peace are always present – sometimes the lights are just turned off.